A long time ago in a galaxy far far away, the Star Wars lore existed and made a huge impact not just in the Star Wars universe but even in the lives of hardcore and casual fans of the beloved franchise.
Despite his size and strange manner of speech, Yoda is so full of wisdom that even the members of the Jedi Council often go to him for advice and counsel.
The story’s setting may be set against the background of an intergalactic coup d’etat and war but Yoda’s wisdom can be pretty much applied in other areas of life, too, even in a marriage.
Perhaps you’re at the stage in your relationship where you’re just about ready to pop the question. Maybe you’re already shopping in a popular bridal boutique for what you will be wearing as you walk down that aisle. Or perhaps you’ve already been married for years but just like any other normal couple, you’re struggling to keep the relationship together. The quotes we have listed below will give you a fresh perspective about things that are important in your relationship.
6 Powerful Quotes from Yoda That Will Leave a Mark in Your Marriage
1. “Truly wonderful the mind of a child is.”
Attack of the Clones
There is something so attractive and marvelous about a child’s purity and innocence. It is something that we, as adults, seem to have lost somewhere along the way that led us to be cynical, sarcastic, and often times, offensive. We need to revisit what it was like to be children and retrieve those child-like qualities to improve not just our surroundings but our perspective as well.
Having this point of view where you are always in awe will help you appreciate your spouse more. It takes away the level of familiarity you have and will leave you smiling at the little things that made you fall in love with your partner in the first place.
2. “Judge me by my size, do you?”
The Empire Strikes Back
In a world where size matters, Yoda was teaching Luke a lesson to never underestimate a person’s capacity just because of their size and appearance. We are all gifted in unique ways and judging a person based solely on appearance might catch you off-guard when that person shows you what he or she is truly made of.
Similarly, marriage somehow causes us to become too familiar with our partners. We start to see their little flaws and imperfections and somehow, admit it or not, start to think lesser of them and take them for granted. Remember that as each day goes by, people change incrementally. Never underestimate your spouse’s potential to become great and instead, be there to lend your support to help him or her realize that potential.
3. “Your path you must decide.”
Star Wars Rebels, “Path of the Jedi”
This one hits straight to the very core of our being. Much of life is beyond our control, especially in domestic arguments and disagreements. However, the way we respond is something that we have control of. We can always choose to rise above our emotions and respond to our spouses instead of reacting to what they say. We must learn how to control our emotions and our tongues. We may not have full control over our spouse but we can always work with what we can control.
4. “Difficult to see. Always in motion is the future.“
The Empire Strikes Back
Yoda, for all his power and oneness with the Force, acknowledges that no amount of power can make one see the future for it continually evolves with each action and reaction. This being said, we are not supposed to be too fixated and obsessed with the future.
A lot of couples go through so much stress living for the future that they end up being burned out. They have failed to recognize that while it’s important to plan for a good future for the family, they should never forget to breathe and enjoy the present with each other.
5. “You must unlearn what you have learned.”
The Empire Strikes Back
Sometimes we pick things up that aren’t exactly beneficial to us in the long run like bad habits and mindsets. These are the things we need to break and replace with better ones if we want our lives to improve and count for something.
If you take that and put it in the context of marriage, understand that two individuals with different values, educational backgrounds, preferences, and beliefs are coming together as one. If one tries to impose his or her “learnings” on the other, expect some form of resistance to take place. Marriage is building a life together, including beliefs, values, and habits, from scratch. You should come in willing to let go of a lot of things, forsaking all others, and build a life together with each other. It is the best time to get rid of the bad and build with the good.
6. “Do or do not. There is no try.”
The Empire Strikes Back
This is perhaps the most famous quote Yoda is known for. He is saying that trying is as good as not doing. If you’re willing to commit to it, just do it. It’s as simple as that. Trying is not an acceptable option. Only doing and getting things done matter in the greater scheme of things.
In marriage, there is also no try. It is not a game that you can stop and put away in storage. Once you get in, you need to give your everything to make it work. Understand that you are no longer living for yourself but you have a spouse (and eventually, a family) to consider. Trying is like saying you’ll do it but only at 50% capacity. Unacceptable. You either do it or don’t get into marriage at all if you’re not ready to live a life of selflessness.
Quite impressive for a little critter, right? Inspiration doesn’t always have to come from real people and real-life scenarios, as proven by the wise fictional Jedi master, despite the funny way he talks. Life lessons surround us. You just need to look for them in the right places. Yes, even in a galaxy far far away.
